Something has been on my mind for a few days...
When I was in Oklahoma a few of our friends had just moved down to Ft. Sill and we were able to visit them for a little while. It was a lot of fun..also brought up memories of why I am glad we moved away from some of those people. But in the end it was alot of fun.
One of our friends had to take me to the airport in OKC, which was fun! The whole ride we talked about having babies and such. This woman is not a mom. She wants to finish school and I think the idea of being a parent generally scares her. But I had, had 2 friends have kids in the time period I was in Oklahoma and it sorta just came up. As we were talking the woman said...
"Evelyn is seriously my Birth Control"
...At first I didnt think much of this. But as I sorta had time of the plane rides to think I started to think of how rude that was. I get that my child is into everything, especially in a Non-Baby Proof house, but I generally am helping her learn to not play with certain things. But when you have wine glasses on a shelf near the floor, she's probably gonna go check them out.
I dont like that she refured to my kid as her birth control either. I get it if you dont want to have children, now or ever. I dont judge you on that. But dont tell me that my kid doesnt want to make you have kids. My child is an angel the majority of the time, in a home and a space she knows. But you take her into someones house that she's never been in before then yes she is going to want to explore. She is 13 months old! Its natural she's learning her world and her boundries.
I have friends that never want kids, or friends that are just not ready and thats their choice. Sometimes I dont understand but I get that its not their cup of tea at the moment. But thats all you have to say...dont refure to someone elses kid as birth control. Its rude.
Evelyn can drive me nuts but I love her to death! She is just learning and I know it wont be this hectic forever. She will learn her boundries and she will learn to ask about if she can play with things or not. Until then its her learning and exploring and me following her all over telling her not to touch hot or dangerous things. Its still super fun!