Friday, April 13, 2012

SAHM

So with some of the controversy with some people thinking being a Stay At Home Mom is a bad thing, I'd just like to write about what being a SAHM means to me.

I never felt like I should be doing anything other then what I am doing now. Being a SAHM is not being "lazy" or not contributing to society. Its true, I do not earn money for staying home, I do however earn some great blessings by watching my daughter learn new things and taking a lot of work off my husbands shoulders.

As a MilSpouse I think most of us are SAHM's, its hard not to be in this life since you have one spouse who can leave for days, weeks, and months at a time. We want that time with our husbands if we are lucky enough to have it, and also stability for our children.

Now I don't judge anyone who works out of the home, I can at times be really jealous. But like I said I never felt like I should be doing anything other then what I am doing right now, but I will admit sometimes it would be nice to be with adults all day. When High School was over I never even applied for college, not because I didn't want to go, I did. I wanted the experience, but I didn't want to waste money on something I wasn't sure about. Even now, I am almost 23 and if you told me if I could go to college what would I study, and I would still say, "I Don't Know". Anyone who does know what they want to be, hats off to you because that's amazing that you can be that. I believe that since I had my daughter that this is what I was born to do.

I seriously kick ass at being a SAHM, I work so hard to keep my house clean, to try different recipes for my husband, and to spend a lot of time with my daughter. I will admit sometimes Evelyn drives me crazy, but at the end of the day I am grateful and blessed to spend this time with my daughter, she'll only be a baby once!and not to toot my own horn, but I am becoming a pretty good cook. Thank you Pintrest!

I don't like when people judge me for staying home. It was a personal decision that my husband and I decided, together. I was a stay-at-home-wife before we had Evelyn, due to my husband deploying much earlier then we thought after his 1st one. I don't regret that either. My day is not fueled by sitting in front of the tv, vegging out of bon bons and spending all my husbands money. Believe me sometimes I wish that was the case. My day is busy with my 8 month old, teaching her new things and getting her out of trouble. trying to figure out what she wants, trying to sleep train her, and keep her on a good schedule. Its a lot of work, but I am proud I have the opportunity to do so.

Believe me I wouldn't change this for anything.

8 comments:

Cassidy said...

High Five!! To each their own opinion and don't let others bring you down. You rock at what you do, so just keep going at it. Personally if J and I have a baby I will do it for a short time simply because I'm the type of person that HAS to work. I don't NEED to, but I feel like I have to. Still, High Five!!

Optimistic Liz said...

and I think thats awesome you want to go back to work after a baby! it takes alot to do that too! sometimes I wish I had some adult time! HIGH FIVE!

Chantal said...

It IS a lot of work! Just because we don't have "real" jobs, doesn't mean we're lazy. I'm glad to be able to stay home with our baby, and before that, I stayed home as a write. To each their own, right?

Natalie and Remington said...

And I am jealous of you for being able to be a stay at home mom! I know when my maternity leave is up I will have to go back to work on the weekends. I know its only weekends, but it breaks my heart that I have to. Once my husband and I can get things a little bit more settled we decided that I will quit my job.

Morgan Neal said...

Who cares what people think! Do it for you, your beautiful daughter & that amazing man that's giving up time to help our country! Live your life! So proud of you & all the other milspouces!!

Conni Smith said...

Anyone who thinks it is easy to be a SAHM (and I'm an Army one too) *clearly* has never been one.

I think we should buy her some dental floss to help her get the shoe leather from between her teeth...

I have been a "SAHM" since 1993, raising and homeschooling three children. One has graduated, and this coming year I will have 2 high school students. Easy? Oh Suuuure!

Let's throw in the volunteer work I do, and the many deployments Uncle Sam has graced us with.

It's a breeze. That's why my hair looks the way it does ;)

ROXY said...

I love this post. I am a stay a home wife since I PCS from Hawaii to Texas and will be a stay at home mommy in the next week or so. I do miss working and feeling "productive" but at the same time I am working. I do a lot around the house (cleaning, cooking, laundry) while my husband works hard for our family. I will be venturing into the world of mommyhood and I can just imagine how busy I'll be. But I definitely would not trade in being a stay a home mommy watching my baby girl grow up for a full-time job.

Audrey Spence said...

Its funny, when I used to go to church dances when I was in ysa wards, I would have guys ask me what I wanted to be. I would always say "you're probably going to think I'm crazy but I just want to be a mom. I love cooking and cleaning and doing laundry and taking care of kids." I remember one guy telling me he had never gotten an answer like that before and most girls gave him their college and career plans. I did get my associate degree just with generals because I couldn't decide but I love being a homemaker! It's the best! Even if my daughter is a demon sometimes :)

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